Healthy nurture of your child

Healthy nurture of your child

INTRODUCTION

‘Child is father of man’

Child is like clay it depends on hands of parents, how they mold it & what they create out of it. From birth to attend physical & emotional maturity child is depend on parents & nurture given in this period decide future of child

Factors contributing to psychological development of child

Ø  Hereditary behavior

Ø  Family environment

Ø  Nurture

How you can develop your child as better individual

Ø  Child learn many things from behavior of parents so parents should behave in good manner in front of child Parents should not fulfill unnecessary demands of child . do not provide child what he want when he cry or become violent just to satisfy him  E.g. While parents leaving home, child want mother to stay back , but by explaining child in good way he should make to stay without mother & slowly develop that habit

Ø  Try to satisfy all curiosities of child with simple explanation , do not say them ‘you will not understand’ or ‘this is not age to ask such questions’ this make child more curious & child started doing those things.

Ø  Be faithful with your child always keep your promise.

Ø  Bring home those toys with which child can play & learn something creative. Parents must understand interest of child

Ø  Try to improve confidence of child by your act. Parents should present confidant & courageous in front of child

Ø   Do not say negative things to child & do not punish them emotionally or physically. Make them understand all things by simple explanation. If you say them ‘don’t do this’ then explain them that why they should not do it, what is harm in it & if not this then instead what they must do.

Ø  When your child is doing work 1^st time explain them how they should do it otherwise they will make mistake & if you shout at them they will loose confidence.

Ø  Change bad habits by good methods

                                                                                         

10 Tips For Enhancing That Loving' Feeling between Parents and Their Children

1. Say I Love You

2. Teach Your Faith

3. Establish a Special Name or Code Word

4. Develop and Maintain a Special Bedtime Ritual

5. Let Your Children Help You

6. Play with Your Children

7. Eat Meals as a Family

8. Seek Out One-On-One Opportunities Often

9. Respect Their Choices

10. Make Them a Priority in Your Life

How to Cope Positively With Difficult Child Behavior.

1. Establish House RulesMake simple rules for your child. Start with a few "things we do and don't do." Discuss them with your child.
2.  Prevention Is Better Than CureIf you feel that your child's behavior is beginning to get out of control, "nip it in the bud" by distracting your child's attention onto a positive activity or game.
3.  Understand Your Child's BehaviorDefine simply and clearly any difficult behavior. Keep a diary of what led up to the behavior and what immediately followed it. From this, see if there is a pattern. What are the triggers and consequences which might be keeping the behavior going?  DON'T blame yourself but work at changing your responses.
4.  Discipline with Short Time-OutsTry to view discipline in a different way e.g. if a rule is broken, discipline with a time out a short, quiet time alone, without play. Alternatively ignore minor behavior difficulties as your attention will often inadvertently encourage the very behavior you want to stop
5.  Take FiveWhen tensions and anger rise in you or your child take five. Take five minutes to cool down and to ask yourself, "Why am I getting so angry?" Try to identify the real problem, then find the solution. Always control your temper.
6.  Never Strike In AngerResearch has shown that hitting your child does not help, and can do more damage. Try to avoid striking your child in anger. Smacking is not effective in reducing poor behavior, as it does not teach children good behavior.
7.   Don't Yell or shout at childrenTry to avoid yelling at your children in anger. Do not put down your children. If they break a rule, tell them what they did wrong and why that makes you angry. Be angry at what they did, NOT at who they are.
8.   Get Awaywhen you feel frustrated, angry or uncontrollable; let your feelings out safely away from your children. Get out. Take a walk. Do not stay alone with your children when you are overwhelmed. Get help and support

Goals for Children

1. To enable children to recognize and express their feelings fully and constructively.
2. To give children the opportunity to be heard.
3. To help children develop effective problem-solving and coping skills.
4. To increase children’s self-confidence and self-esteem.
5. To increase children’s trust and confidence in their parents
6. To reduce or eliminate maladaptive behaviors and presenting problems.
7. To help children develop proactive and prosocial behaviors.
8. To promote an open, cohesive family climate that fosters healthy and balanced child development in all spheres: social, emotional, intellectual, behavioral, physical, and spiritual.

Goals for Parents

1. To increase parents’ understanding of child development in general.
2. To increase parents’ understanding of their own children in particular.
3. To help parents recognize the importance of play and emotion in their children’s lives as well as in their own.
4. To decrease parents’ feelings of frustration with their children.
5. To aid parents in the development of a variety of skills that are likely to yield better child-rearing outcomes.
6. To increase parents’ confidence in their ability to parent.
7. To help parents open the doors of communication with their children and then keep them open.
8. To enable parents to work together as a team.
9. To increase parents’ feelings of warmth and trust toward their children.

Regards,

Dr. Shreya Udare